Chapter ten - In the Blood

I’m on a roll here, so let’s keep going. Ooops, this chapter is an emotional one too!

This chapter really highlights many of the issues adoptees experience through life. It’s been seven years since I first met my natural father, seven years of trying to stuff down my feelings, deny my needs. But of course, denying things never works. My feelings eventually explode and I find myself before a counsellor.

This time, I meet the right person. Before I make the big decision about whether or not to reach out again to my natural father - who has been absent in the last seven years - I must deal with my adoption issues, my feelings of loss. As a social worker, you’d think I’d know this, that adoption is a loss and must be grieved. But like most of society, the losses associated with adoption are not recognised.

I think this was the roughest road I’ve ever been down. But the results at the end were worth it. At the end of the process, I choose to seek a second reunion with my natural father. But nothing is ever simple or straightforward in adoption, and much strength is needed.

Phew, that’s over! No more tim tams left!

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